The question of divorce and of its management by Church and state continues in these columns. Of course we all want to see successful relationships and happy families; but could we step back from the argument for a moment. What are we all here for on earth?
The most important issue of our time and of all time is the salvation of our souls and the good message proclaimed by Jesus Christ of the love of God and the possibility of eternal life.
Nothing else is near these matters and all of us should be welcoming and telling the good news and describing the way of salvation.
It is said that religion is a “private matter” but God is much more than a private matter; for us He is the only matter and we should not be hesitant or ashamed to say so, and say so openly, and over and over again.
The Church and the state are man-made institutions, hopefully inspired by virtue and wisdom, but both should have as their top priority the Christian message.
What about Islam, Buddhism, Judaism and the other religions? Are they any of our business – do we think they have something important to offer?
Of course they do. However, our task as Christians is to show our faith in the way we live, to show by example how the love of God and Christ’s messages inspire us as the way to Heaven.
Is divorce “right”? Of course not. How can breaking a promise made before God for a man and a woman to spend the rest of their lives together be right?
Of course it is not right, but alas it is sometimes necessary, and if so it should be made easy, quick and cheap to cut down on the hurt that is always part of a separation.
That only applies to the two partners, who can go their separate ways, but what of their families and friends, and in particular their children, if they have any? One cannot divorce one’s children and nine times out of 10 they are damaged when Mummy and Daddy part company. What example does it give them? It is generally true that children would prefer to be brought up by their biological parents, even if everything is not always as it should be.
Divorce where there are children should only take place in extremis. Couples should consider their responsibilities, and in this context avoid bad behaviour, which is the main cause of marital breakdown. Inconsiderate behaviour may not be illegal, but it is wrong, and always wrong. What can we do? Love your neighbour as yourself and live a kindly and decent existence in the sure and certain hope that you will meet your Maker with the cleanest conscience you can manage.