I understand the devout stance that the marital bond, based on love and respect, should be the strongest and most unbreakable commitment a person makes. I also see the political view that marriage and family unity are vital to a country's moral and cultural stability.

In an ideal world these should be the solid foundations of any society. Sadly, reality always dulls idealism.

Anyone who is about to divorce will tell you that they thought that their marriage would last forever. However, changing circumstances force a number of questions regarding divorce. Is a couple pretending to be happy "for the sake of the family ideal"? Is separation with the same pre-separation responsibilities best for maintaining the magical view of the family unit? Is it right for the state and Church to condemn divorce when, if you have the funds and contacts, you can get one abroad?

The divorce debate in Malta draws comment from parties who perhaps fear losing a little influence over their flock. Independence, technology, prosperity and EU influences have changed Maltese society. People's expectations are higher and their needs are more cosmopolitan and individualistic.

Although the Church and the state have always worked closely to maintain moral stability, legislation needs to meet these sociological and economic shifts.

Divorce should not mean a breakdown in society or a weakening of religious allegiance. It also should not be a 'quick way out' or one that is available only to those who can afford it. Perhaps a halfway stage is needed whereby couples separate for a set period of time before they can file for divorce.

There will never be a solution which pleases everyone, but rejecting divorce on the basis of family values that are already being challenged to the limit is not the answer. A way has to be found which works with a changing population and which does not alienate more of an already shrinking Catholic following.