Friday, 16th January 2009
Green with Envy
Who me? Nahhhh definitely not. I don’t DO envy. Never have, never will. The negative, green, evil, vindictive envy….THAT I don’t do. On the other hand…the sort of envy where, I WISH I’d been born heir to the Hilton Empire …maybe! Heheheh
What I’m trying to say is, that I would never have it in my heart to wish anyone any wrong just because s/he has succeeded in doing something or has something I’ve always wanted. Seems to me though that so many people just thrive on doing so on this tiny island, where if I farted, my best friend in Bugibba would probably smell it!
I had a friend who had just bought a spanking new car, shimmering she drove into her street and parked it right in front of her house. She’d been saving for it and finally she wasn’t going to rely on public transport anymore. It could get her to work the next day efficiently or so she thought. Next Morning at 8am, she awoke to find her tyres slashed. Not just one, no….. all of them!
And so I thought to myself, but who could be so consumed by such jealousy to even bother to go out at a time where s/he is unseen and damage someone’s property!!
So it’s no surprise to me anymore when I visit an online forum of any sort. It has become a pass time for those who hide behind their PCs commenting on blogs, message boards anything that tickles their venomous fancy, to pass sweeping statements and pass judgement on whom, they don’t really like.
When you do actually corner such people and ask them why they don’t like someone enough to write against or comment about them, more commonly you will find that THEY don’t even know why they harbour that hatred towards such a person. Which makes it even more pathetic.
Envy, is indeed a very local trait. The way we are unable to be happy for someone else’s achievement or glory at ANYTHING they choose to do in life, is beyond me. Everyone is entitled to opinions. Yes, Freedom of speech is something I agree with. Journalism, for one, is based on that premise. But it is the way you choose to deliver your opinion that also makes a difference.
There is no sense in being envious for another. If you are, then you are unhappy with yourself. Then you are convinced that you are not capable of achieving. Envy is cowardice. If you think you can do it better than others, then go out there, get in there and grab it. Do it. Succeed. Let your voice be heard.
Nothing ever comes easy in life. Nothing falls into anyone’s lap. People work very hard for what they achieve and that’s why….You sitting there ….yes You at home behind your PC…if you want what the person you’re so busy hating has….just go and get it yourself. And get yourself a good scrub…get rid of that green tinge!
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just discovered your blogs.. being a fan I shall endeavor to read them. I have experienced this envy-shit that you speak of on many continents. I arm myself with the following wisdom when needed. Just-in-case-you-are-not-familiar-with-it----and-----I-can-see-I-am-a-bit-late-with-this-response-sorry.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
This has been widely misinterpreted as a Nelson MAndela speech but apparently Marianne Williamson wrote it in her 'Return to Love" book.
yes the Maltese are rather envious at times.. i remember during one of my courses where i was the newbe and most of the other students had been in the school for 2 years.. i worked really hard in my 1st assignment and i got a better mark then most of these students.. they didn't speak to me for the rest of the course.. all except for the foreign girl who is know my best friend!
I'm used to it by now.
Mr Borg seems to think that the Maltese are an exceptionally envious race (naturally excluding himself). I happen to disagree. I think we are no worse - and no better - than anybody else.
Finally, I never fail to be amused by those people who are firmly convinced that they are envied by everybody else. It is invariably the result of wishful thinking.
From experience I can tell you that us Maltese are quite an envious and jealous type of people.
Try getting a promotion here and getting one in a foreign country, such as UK and Germany, and see the reaction of your co-workers. While that in UK or Germany co-workers try to emulate you and ask you for advise to try and get the next promotion; people in Malta sulk, blutter out that they should have got the promotion behind your back and will keep on doing things their own way with the "I know it all attitude".
What do you call that? Could it be the "masters of oiur own destiny for over 40 years" effect?
Why? Why this continuous and continual urge to denigrate the Maltese and anything connected to Malta?
Human nature is the same all over the world - there are as many envious/stupid/clever people in, say, England, the USA. China or any other country you care to name. We are no better - but certainly no worse - than any other race.
This sneering attitude is probaly a relict of colonial times when we saw ourselves - indeed, we were encoutasged to do so - as inferior to foreigners.
But we have been masters of oiur own destiny for over 40 years now - isn't it time we grew up?