Mark Said writes:
Death should be a daily reminder for us all. We do not know if today will be our last day in this world. It so happened with Joseph Apap Bologna. For Mariella, Louisa and Paul, losing a close family member through death brings feelings of emptiness that no words can convey but the memories of their husband and father, respectively, will last forever.
Often, we forget about the families the deceased leaves behind – the ones who continue to live with the pain long after the final condolence bouquet has been delivered. Experiencing the death of a family member is traumatic enough.
I had the privilege of sharing valuable experiences with the late magistrate as a colleague, as a presiding judicial authority and, above all, as one of the most amiable family friends.
Joe enjoyed life to the full, reconciling work duties with family responsibilities, backedby the inalienable support of his dear wife and children. He enjoyed a closely-knit family life, celebrating its joys with that unique smile of his, exuding calmness, patience, good judgement and perseverance.
Joe is no longer in the past – he is now in the future.
Each and every one of us changes in some way after the death of someone we love. Some of us may harden after the experience; some will soften but those who choose to learn and grow from this tragic time will go on with their life remembering ‘what was’ and appreciating ‘what is’. I am sure this is what Mariella, Louisa and Paul will do.
No matter what the situation, Joe always had a positive attitude. He was a role model for them and they were happy to listen whenever he had advice for them.
He was always there for them when needed. They will surely miss him more than words can say. Equally, they will surely be glad that they got to spend so much time together and were so close.
They will miss him dearly and never forget him. His memory will live on in all of them, and us who knew him, forever.
To his family: may God help you find a peaceful new existence while keeping memories alive.