We are told that real life is different from the dream of a perfect marriage because marriages break down and people separate and divorce.
Two thousand years after the same words were uttered and the same marriage breakdowns happened at the time, we finally realised that there is no solution other than divorce.
Adultery, violence and all other abuse existed then too. Nothing new in that. Actually, abuse existed since man’s creation.
Jesus Christ spoke very clearly on this subject: those who divorce and marry again will be committing adultery. Is this the modern 2011 solution for a marriage initiated in church, with a solemn vow to respect each other till death separates the couple?
Shall we legitimise the second, third, and subsequent marriage of a violent/abusive spouse to be able to form other families with a very good chance of repeated abuse?
Shall we, as taxpayers, be made to foot the bill to cover the social benefits involved in the second and other marriages?
Do we think children born out of different marriages to one of the spouses will live in harmony?
And what about maintenance for the children – can one partner support more than one family? It would be foolhardy to think so, with the exception of the wealthy few. This would result in a lot of poor children begging their grandparents, uncles and aunts for their needs. Divorce is indeed a tool for the wealthy to form more than one family.
Much more than separation and cohabitation, divorce will make children change their bedroom according to the day of the week, possibly having to share with other unwanted children.
Having to sleep in a house with another parent who is not one’s own, has resulted already in many cases of sexual abuse – divorce will increase the chances of this too.
We adults have to defend these innocent beings from these predators.
The children will not vote on May 28 and they are the silent actors in the divorce saga. We have to voice their silent cry to protect their lives.
They are telling every mother and father: remain loyal to each other; honour the commitment you made on your wedding day; stay strong; try to solve your problems by asking God’s help; love your partner truly even if it involves sacrifices and hardship.
There is no marriage without problems but the secret for a successful marriage is very simple – love, love and yet more love.
We cannot let our marriages and future ones be destroyed for the convenience of the abusive few. This will create an injustice to happily married couples.