Woman throws paint at house for not being invited to wedding
A 22-year-old woman admitted in court today that she threw red paint on the facade of a friend’s house after she didn’t receive a wedding invitation.
The woman said that her fiancé and herself had been good friends with the couple who were marrying.
The two couples had decided to get married two months apart. However her fiancé died in December.
Their friends, who are due to get married in the coming weeks, for some reason had not sent her an invitation and she daubed red paint over the grooms’ house in revenge.
The woman said that she was very sorry for the incident, explaining that she was going through a very bad time. She paid €1,565 in damages to the groom.
Magistrate Consuelo Scerri Herrera ordered a ban on the publication of the names of all parties involved in the case, especially as the woman is seeking psychiatric help.
The woman was placed on probation for two years and ordered not to approach the couple.
Popular Stories
Update 3: Woman found dead in car,...
Updated: Woman dies in car crash
Carm Mifsud Bonnici resigns after...
Part of Dwejra 'Azure window' collapses
The end of the bar that ‘never closed’
Bundy does not know whether to...
Updated - Jason Micallef demands...
This WAS the night - Kurt makes it...
'No need for early election if PM's...
In Discussion
Updated - Jason Micallef demands...
Gozo tunnel could take 5-7 years to...
CABS remote controlled aircraft shot...
Carm Mifsud Bonnici resigns after...
Joseph Calleja condemns portrayal of...
Updated: Labour would give...
CABS drone shot down
Second group of migrants arrives
Adrian Vassallo in scathing...
71 Comments
Post comment
Please sign in or create your Account to post comments.
n. cremona
Aug 21st 2010, 23:43
How can you talk like this on a person thats been through rough time like this!!!!???? And then writing non sense on every article and criticizing everyone and everything. GET A LIFE PEOPLE if u are entitled to be called people
K J Vella
Aug 21st 2010, 11:05
Ms 22-year old woman, very sorry to hear about your fiance. Corraggio in your time of trouble!
AnnMarie Chetcuti
Aug 21st 2010, 10:41
Somehow my heart goes out to this woman. She has suffered a terrible loss, and that should have been taken into consideration. At the same time, the couple getting married probably felt awkward and perhaps decided not to invite her so as not to compound her pain. Good intentions, but then the road to hell is also paved with the same intentions. Just my opinion
M. Ellul
Aug 21st 2010, 10:08
Il-ħbieb ta veru jippruvaw jgħinuk mhux ikomplu jkissruk!!! Ma jfissirx illi qiegħda niġġustifika l-fatt illi ntefgħet iż-żebgħa ma faċċata ... l-anqas xejn, imma dawn setgħu, li kieku kienu veru ħbieb ta din it-tfajla staqsewha direttament jekk kienetx lesta tmur it-tieġ tagħhom u jagħmlu skont ix-xewqa tagħha. Imma mid-dehra l-ħbiberija ma kienetx daqshekk soda għax minflok ippruvaw jirranġaw bil-kwiet ... daqqew il-glorja bil-kas u daħħlu l-qorti u saħansitra għamlulha garanzija. Nawgura lil din it-tfajla li toħroġ minn din is-sitwazzjoni malajr u terġa tibda tgħix kif jixirqilha ... veru huwa diffiċli, imma possibli. L-ewwel m'għandha tagħmel issib ħbieb veri li lesti li jgħinuha.
Naqbel ma xi wħud illi kitbu biex ċertu kummenti ma jidhrux għax jagħmlu aktar ħsara milli ġid.
Steve Pace
Aug 20th 2010, 15:52
Was tempted to comment on the fact that "The woman said that her fiancé and herself had been good friends with the couple who were marrying."
however reading further down "However her fiancé died in December." made me stop and think.... Poor soul. She must have been devasted by the loss.. Prayers go out to her and wish her a brighter future. At least a ban was made on the name... ..
Deo Catania
Aug 20th 2010, 12:53
haga wahda nghidilhom lil dawk li bhas-soltu mohhom biex iparlaw zejjed, jirredikolaw lill-proxmu u jiehdu gost johorgu ta' mazetti.......tinsewx nhar il-Hadd morru l-quddies u tqarbnu (ghax dik l-importanti biex tkun kristjan kattoliku nisrani tajjeb).........nothing else matters.
M.Pule'
Aug 20th 2010, 12:21
Some people are experts to judge others but do not want to be judged. Stop commenting about other people's lives. You will never know if someday, you will go thru the same experience.
mary borg
Aug 20th 2010, 11:57
what a sad story!! poor woman. I can imagine what she's going through! Couldn't at least the couple talked to her before sending the invitations, since she is still in mouring? that is what i call etiquette! not inviting her to the wedding was just a rushed decision! they could have avoided all this. after all they were still friends! what the woman did, was a split second feeling of frustration.......and here we are all judging her! who had this bright idea to publish this story???? are we going to start reading every court order from now onwards? i consider this as a private situation. and i hope the publishers took permission from both sides before publishing this story!!
j.camilleri
Aug 20th 2010, 11:21
Ahjar tathom hasla go s-sala quddiem il-mistiednin milli tefghet iz-zebgha ghax forsi kienet tohrog b'irhas! Miskina nghidilha peress li din il-persuna minjaf minn x'hiex ghaddejja moralment . Fl-0pinjoni tieghi kien insult la ma' tawhiex spjegazzjoni wara li minghaliha li ghandha support mill-''friends'' !
S. Scicluna
Aug 20th 2010, 11:40
Meta jsibu il-partner imbaghad kulhadd jinsihom il-"friends" Ms./Mr. Camileri. Ghalhekk ma nahsibx li jezistu hbieb u familja. Tibqa hbieb u tibqa ahwa sakemm jidhlu fin-nofs il-barranin u il-partners. Imbaghad kulhadd jinsik.
Hafna nies l-ewwel ikunu hbieb tieghek imbaghad ghax tgharsu jew izzewgu bil-kemm jibqghu ikelmuk qishom saru min jaf xiex. Ilni nara din l-istorja quddiemi hafna snin. Il-hbieberiji ta xi darba spiccaw illum kulhadd juza lil xulxin ghall-iskopijiet tieghu. Forsi din it-tfajla f'daqqa wahda tilfet l-importanza taghha ghalihom la issa mghadiex gharusa bhalhom. Mhux darba u tnejn li tigri din. Hawn hafna nies jahsbu li tkun xi miskin ghax tkun single.
A De Brincat
Aug 20th 2010, 10:31
1565, the great siege!
Cesco Bonello
Aug 20th 2010, 10:20
Its not the aggrasive behaviour that worries me, not even the waste of money but the fact that people still get married at 22 years of age.. I mean, at 22 you wouldent have even started living your life let alone discovered one self.. but hey, who am I to judge.
Max Portelli
Aug 20th 2010, 11:16
.... you said it yourself
M Sciberras
Aug 20th 2010, 12:08
ezatt...who are you to judge? :)
Cesco Bonello
Aug 20th 2010, 12:57
ezatt =)
Mark Dalli
Aug 20th 2010, 09:46
i feel that what she did was maybe wrong....but what they did was much much much worse!
I don't feel the judge did a good moral judgement here and focused only on material damage....were infact the damage done by the 'friend" couple is much much worse then a bucket of paint!!!!
J Camilleri
Aug 20th 2010, 18:00
Maybe coz the victim is still undergoing shock with her loss? Maybe her friend did not want to invite her out of good cause. Not to see her go through pain as the victim was about to marry too.
C Muscat
Aug 20th 2010, 09:45
Don’t judge unless you’re not in the situation. I’m sure the couple was feeling awkward inviting her without her fiancé, since he’s dead. Hope this incident will make those around this 22-year old woman realise that she is in need of help and companionship. May God Bless her and give her courage and strength to move on with life!!
O Tabone
Aug 20th 2010, 09:32
who are you to judge? she's going through rough time since she lost her fiancee..why doesn't everyone mind his own business. live and let live people
Adrian Schembri
Aug 20th 2010, 09:18
Wisq probabli ma stednuhiex biex ma jweggawhiex billi jfakkruha fl-gharus li tilfet. Meta mohh ikun ghadda minn trawma hekk ma jibqax li jkun. Mhux qed niggustifika li ghamlet, imma certa kummenti huma naqra sparati mill-warrani. Min jaf kif kontu tispiccaw jekk kif wasaltu ghaz-zwieg intom titilfu l-partner?
A GRECH
Aug 20th 2010, 09:17
Very catholic comments indeed !! God knows what this poor woman is going thru' - losing her fiance just some months before getting married, anyone in her place would need psychiatric help. May she find the help she needs.
E.Gatt
Aug 20th 2010, 09:04
That turned out to be one hell of an expensive wedding present!!
E debono
Aug 20th 2010, 08:58
€1565 ..min fej gabuwa? mela hasbuwa ghamlet l-assedju l kbir jew?
G Borda
Aug 20th 2010, 08:42
A comment intended purely to create a heated discussion and differrence of opinion :
(just to make life a bit more interesting :) )
Some are amazed at this woman's foolishness.... but then... what else do you expect from a woman?
L Zerafa
Aug 20th 2010, 11:04
Imagine losing your partner. Regardless of your sex, I'm sure you would be going through a very hard time.
P. Borg
Aug 20th 2010, 11:33
What does gender has to do with this? Haven't you heard about men who had killed their ex partner because she left them? Then we should tell you the same argument - What do expect from a man???
Come on shut up and don't show us your lack of respect towards other human beings. What do you think that Men are some sort of Gods? Everyone goes through difficult times in life and depression knows no gender. It can happen to everyone and it results in different behaviours. Haven't you heard about men who killed themselves because they lost their partner? I suggest the Times should censor such comments, they are immaterial to the discussion.
S. Scicluna
Aug 20th 2010, 11:34
Trid tghaddi minnha biex tkun taf xi thoss paroli vojt!!!!!
Al Buhagiar
Aug 20th 2010, 08:10
I think the whole thing is very Hollywood, lol Tad-dahq sew insomma!
Joe E Galea
Aug 20th 2010, 07:14
Minflok ferhet li ffrankat rigal marret titfalha z-zebgha!! Ara haw ruxmata nies xejn sew go dal-pajjiz.
Micallef .V.
Aug 21st 2010, 17:48
Mhux sew habib. Ma qrajtx it-telfa li garrbet ftit qabel.
J McBee
Aug 20th 2010, 02:56
Apparently some of the people writing here have no idea what empathy means. They cannot put themselves in this woman's shoes and try to think of what it must be like to have your fiancé die a few months before you were meant to be married. Her friends' wedding and not being invited to it are not the cause of her outburst, but the twig that broke the camel's back. I find fault with the title of the article for making it sound like such a trivial, wanton incident because I too thought so at first, but reading about this woman's fiancé's passing puts lots of things in perspective.
marthese mussett
Aug 20th 2010, 01:18
Could be that they did nt invite her because they thought it might make her feel bad.But anyway...her fiance died so I can imagine the pain she s going through....I m not saying it s right...but she needs help and tolerance
maria aquilina
Aug 20th 2010, 00:38
Une must understand the woman's action.They were friends and her partner died. On seeing her friend getting married she ppanicked and threw paint at the groom's door. The woman needs help not pay that huge sum of money.Nevertheless I am sure that she will find anothe man whom she can marry.Better luck next time.
Nick Falzon
Aug 19th 2010, 23:55
This is a sad little tale actually. Lets hope the young woman who threw the paint gets over her problems soon.
barry hayes
Aug 19th 2010, 23:52
only in malta
M Sciberras
Aug 20th 2010, 12:07
nahseb malta biss jigru dawn l-affarijiet...pfffff
Nick Falzon
Aug 20th 2010, 13:43
Barry, these incidents happen all over the world.
I remember a farmer in Northumberland who was angry with his local Royal Bank of Scotland branch for refusing him a small loan.
He took his tractor and a trailer full of cow manure and sprayed it all over the outside of the bank in revenge.
A briiliant piece of comedy but he landed up in court and was slapped with a fine.
In yesterday's case it is clear the 22-year-old woman was in some distress when she threw the paint.
John Azzopardi
Aug 21st 2010, 17:19
No not only in Malta only. So many wierd things happen all over the world, but we don't here of them. Also, the fine is way too high for this incident. So much other type of crimes get committed and people get away with it for free or a small fine. Well, we don't know the whole story, thus we cannot say much.
Mario Farrugia
Aug 19th 2010, 23:20
Some people's insensitivity to particular situations, coupled with an IQ of a chicken, result in such bad-tasted comments like those posted here.....
X'injuranza grassa!!
Marianna Galea Xuereb
Aug 19th 2010, 22:48
They probably did not invite her to spare her the pain of seeing them get married when she had lost her beloved fiancé. I would have done exactly the same in order not to rub in and hammer home her tragic loss.
Kevin Cassar
Aug 19th 2010, 22:44
It does not require a lot of intelligence when you read all the details given. 2 couples are friends and due to get married two months apart. One of them loses the partner.
I would think that the couple did not send her an invitation because they must have thought it would make her uneasy, having missed out on a similar happy occasion due to a tragic death. What she did was obviously wrong but it also does not take a genius to know that she required some serious councelling after such a loss. Where are the authorities when you need them?
Claire Busuttil
Aug 19th 2010, 22:43
dil persuna, ghandha bzonn l ghajnuna, u mhux il gudizzju banali ta hafna nies, bla rispett!!
A.Tanti
Aug 19th 2010, 22:31
Perhaps her friend did not invite her since she lost her fiance and thought that it might be too hard for her to be at the wedding? Especially since they had planned on getting married within a couple months of eachother...trying to spare her friend from more pain? Though throwing paint on the grooms house was a little psychotic, but whatever, I've heard of worse things
Ernest Vella
Aug 19th 2010, 22:26
minflok ghinuha miskina...iz-zebgha tmur imma l-weggha ta telfa hekk kbira tibqa ghal dejjem
Tanja Ciia
Aug 19th 2010, 22:25
There are more questions than answers - did she throw the paint, or did she 'just' daub it? Did they not invite her because of the stigma mental ill-health carries, or because they assumed she was still in mourning and did not want to make her spend money on their gift? Why did she vanadlise the front door of the groom's residence, and not that of the bride? How many jerrycans of paint remover, stain and polish you can purcase for €1,565?
Will the couple actually accept the money?
M. Mifsud
Aug 19th 2010, 22:19
I think that the couple acted in good faith by not inviting her to the wedding, as after losing a fiance' one is definitely not in the right frame of mind for weddings. This poor woman should have been asked to pay damages without any courts involved, especially if she had already regretted her actions.
Allan Gatt
Aug 19th 2010, 21:59
I'd rather be invited to a funeral. At least then you know that person's problems are over.
'You know that relationship Shaniqua and I have been in for the last 3 years? Well, it's gonna stay exactly the same but we want you to show up and bring us gifts and tell us how pretty we look and dress up in your favourite best clothes and toast us and tell funny anecdotes and waste your whole Sunday and it'll be the exact same relationship afterwards! With a lawyer attached.
Egomaniacs! But rejoice. They''ll soon add divorce do's to the list of receptions you'd rather not attend. Progress!
Rita Spiteri
Aug 19th 2010, 21:53
If everyone who is going through a tough time throws red paint at houses.99% of Malta would be painted red!!!!!!!!!! so that's not an excuse.
Paul Barrett
Aug 19th 2010, 21:48
The couple were probably trying to be kind and considerate, probably knowing the hard time she was going through by not inviting her to their wedding - it would be like rubbing salt in the wounds after the loss of her own fiancé.
A.Busuttil
Aug 19th 2010, 21:31
you just type to fill pages
she is passing from a difficult time, but the fne is making her life more misrable.
Joseph Vassallo
Aug 19th 2010, 20:56
The couple probably thought it wouldn't be etiquette to invite her to the wedding while she is still grieving.
Massimo Costa
Aug 19th 2010, 20:50
I'm sure they'll invite her now.
Franco Farrugia
Aug 19th 2010, 20:46
HONESTLY, some commenters here are very much like those old hags sitting next to the guillotine during the French Revolution, always ready to say something. Why don't you live and let live? Do you know what the woman is going through? So, get a bucketfull and fill your mouths with it.
M Grech
Aug 19th 2010, 20:43
haven't you read the whole article? didn't you read that the woman is going through a tough time at the moment? Ok, what she did was wrong but at least try to be more sensitive in your comments before judging others
David Caruana
Aug 19th 2010, 20:45
Thanks for saying that.
Besides, I don't see the point of such story being published as news.
james galea
Aug 19th 2010, 21:06
you are right M.Grech. With all the awarness that we are being thought regarding mental illness no one would expect a computer literate person to pass such comment as those we have to read below. They should be ashamned of themselves.
M Buhagiar
Aug 20th 2010, 00:25
I totally agree with you. It is so sad that many people are so insensitive to the feelings of others. In this case, some found it amusing enough to make ridiculous comments, with no consideration of what the woman involved might be going through at the moment, and without even thinking that comments that are not proper might cause a lot of harm to people who are in distress. Sometimes a single word can make all the difference, so please dear readers, try to be more prudent in your comments.
S. Vella
Aug 20th 2010, 07:49
Ahjar ma stidnuiex, iffrankat citazzjoni (rigal). Mur ara l-iktar ikollok xi hamsa fl-istess xahar, aqta kemm tiehu gost tfajjar il-flus ghalxejn biex wara kapaci jiltaqghu mieghek u ma jkellmukx bhal ma hawn min jaghmel.
I Borg
Aug 20th 2010, 09:53
I second you.
Pauline Abela
Aug 20th 2010, 10:10
Well said, M Grech.
To Robert, Clayton and Nadine: do you think that mental illness, breakdowns, etc are funny? Only low-lifes kick people when they're down.
Ignorant and stupid comments only make things worse and help drive people already on the brink to suicide. If the young lady who threw paint is reading this, "I hope you get well soon. Please ignore those who pass judgement on others without having walked in their shoes."
Robert Mifsud
Aug 20th 2010, 10:21
Dear Mr Grech,from your comment it shows that you are very intelligent,my God,bless you,and what if she killed somebody instead of throwing paint at a house ?!!!!!
A GRECH
Aug 20th 2010, 11:06
@ Robert Mifsud - How very insensitive - Holy communion awaits you !! If she was a relative of yours, would you still talk like this!! ??
Robert Mifsud
Aug 19th 2010, 20:32
Ahjar x^trajtilhom rigal ta mitt euro u ma mortx ghat tieg xorta milli qlajt multa ta 1565 euro !!!!!
What a waste of money and how foolish.
Clayton Zahra
Aug 19th 2010, 20:20
Minn fuq li frankat rigal marret tehel l ispejjez lol
J Theuma
Aug 20th 2010, 08:27
Tajba din, prosit! :)
Nadine Fenech
Aug 19th 2010, 20:17
No wonder she wasn't invited!!!
Martin Stagno
Aug 20th 2010, 06:37
I do not think that the woman who admitted and who expressed regret for the action she took needs any sort of psychiatric help, that is to say not for this particular response. Her reaction, though emotional, was the wrong one. I do not know all the facts regarding this case so I can only opperate with what I have. A commitment to marry two months appart no longer possible because of the passing of her fiance coupled with being excluded from her 'good' friend,s wedding is plenty to trigger an emotional response.Therefore if thinking people are to solve problems via cause, it would be fitting to include in the equasion any insensitivity of the heart.
helen dingli
Aug 20th 2010, 10:02
how insensitive you are you should be ashamed.her fiance died recently you know.and why didnt they still invite her?they were good friends,werent they?
A GRECH
Aug 20th 2010, 11:11
vera lsienek taz-zokkor !! J'Alla ma tigiex f'din is-sitwazzjoni int. Nahseb tibqa tirraguna mijja fil mijja - ux hekk???? gharukaza.
M Sciberras
Aug 20th 2010, 12:02
@ nadine fenech - Minjaf kieku kont inti fis-sitwazzjoni ta din it-tfajla - tkun wasalt biex tizzewweg u jmutlek il-partner. Mhux qed nghid li ghamlet sewwa, imma lanqas nippretendi li tghaddi kumment bhal dak...
R Deguara
Aug 21st 2010, 12:53
naqbel maghkom ninn jaf minn xiex ghaddiet din it-tfajla pero haga wahda biss nghid hadd ma jaghmel xejn ghal xejn u sfortunatament dik li jigri l-innocenti jaghmel dawn laffarijiet... god bless her but think before u act.... let them all go.. start a new chapter evn the ones u used to called them ur friend.. no one in this place is ur friend except to one that u love... but hey u can still be proud of him as he's watching u over.... god bless u dear!!! i feel what r passing through... these type of people must be banned from even being born... imma as we say we have to be patient..... take care!!!