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Update 3: Pullicino Orlando presents divorce bill - PN group to meet tomorrow

Motion not discussed in PN parliamentary group - AD welcomes move

Adds full text of Dr Pullicino Orlando's motion, AD reaction -

Nationalist MP Jeffrey Pullicino Orlando said today that he has presented a Private Member’s Bill for the introduction of divorce.

"The aim of the bill is to dissolve marriages which are irrevocably broken down to prevent the greater harm to the common good which is caused by the present local situation in which re-marriage is impossible and unregulated co-habitation is rife," Dr Pullicino Orlando said.

"It also aims at correcting the injustice suffered by those who wish to re-marry if they wish to do so. It is unjust to marginalise legally separated couples and prevent their further participation in a stable, healthy family environment. A further aim is the elimination of the discriminatory situation which arises with regards to couples who cannot seek a divorce overseas. Divorces granted overseas are recognised by the Maltese state."

Dr Pullicino Orlando said he knew that most of his colleagues, himself included, adhered to the Catholic faith.

"We cannot ,however, allow our religious sentiments to interfere with our obligations towards citizens who wish to regularise their position in society following an irrevocably failed marriage."

He said the bill draws heavily on the legislation present in another predominantly Catholic country, Ireland, and makes it possible for couples to file for divorce only if they have lived apart for at least four years in the preceding five years. This will ensure that no one files for divorce capriciously or as a result of a spur of the moment decision.

It also ensures that all possible avenues for reconciliation have been exhausted before the institution of proceedings.

"As Mgr. Charles Vella, the founder of the Cana Movement, said: ‘Divorce will not lead to marriages in Malta disintegrating’ and ‘the roles of the Church and the State should not be twinned’. Pope Benedict said that : ‘It is not the role of the Church to build a just state but that of citizens and politicians," Dr Pullicino Orlando said.

Nationalist Party sources said that Dr Pullicino Orlando's motion was a personal initiatiave and had not been discussed in the PN parliamentary group. The sources said it was unlikely that the motion would come up for debate before the House rose for its summer recess in the middle of this month.

Labour leader Joseph Muscat has already declared himself in favour of divorce legislation. He declared, even before he became PL leader, that should he become prime minister, he would move divorce legislation and allow a free vote to Labour MPs.

AD WELCOMES MOVE

Alternattiva Demokratika in a statement said it welcomed Dr Pullicino Orlando's motion on the introduction of divorce.

'It is heartening to see that at least one member of parliament has welcomed AD's proposal for the legalisation of divorce in Malta. We also welcome the fact that he has followed up our proposal to draw on Irish divorce legislation. We augur that other parliamentarians follow up the proposals of AD and Pullicino Orlando, especially since AD is the only party with a clear position in favour of legislation on divorce', party leader Michael Briguglio said.

Yvonne Arqueros Ebejer, AD spokesperson on Civil Rights, added: 'It is high time that Malta aligns itself with the rest of world on such a basic civil right. The introduction of divorce would permit thousands of persons to re-marry, thus enabling the strengthening of families'.

Arnold Cassola, AD spokesperson for EU and International Affairs, added: 'If such legislation were introduced, Malta would no longer be the black sheep of the EU as regards this basic civil right'.

PN GROUP TO MEET TOMORROW

The Nationalist Party in a statement this afternoon said the Prime Minister had convened a PN parliamentary group meeting to be held tomorrow to discuss the divorce motion.

"The Prime Minister believes that the discussion in the PN should be guided by the conviction that the best measures should be taken in favour of the family and its members, particularly the most vulnerable," the PN said.

The text of Dr Pullicino Orlando's motion can be seen by clicking the pdf below.

See Archbishop's reaction in separate story.

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Jack Sparrow

Jul 8th 2010, 18:26

I agree, but some women INSIST on taking on your surname, even if you advise them otherwise. Strange world! Min jithabat ghad-drittijiet, u min irid icedihom akkost ta' kollox!

Aron Mifsud Bonnici

Jul 8th 2010, 20:19

Pre-nuptial agreement are legal and I don't see how the introduction of divorce would be relevant. They are presently valid tools for establishing the spouses' paraphernal estates and are on occasions used to exclude the community of acquests which would otherwise be applicable to the married couple by default.

Jack Sparrow

Jul 8th 2010, 21:37

Pre-nuptial? You must be kidding sir. When I brought that up with my gharusa she wanted to kill me!

Kenneth Cassar

Jul 8th 2010, 11:30

"Those who point out that those who believe in marriage for life are free not to opt for divorce overlook the fact that marriage involves two persons".

Some of those who point out that marriage involves two persons conveniently forget that with or without divorce, any of the spouses may leave his partner legally at any time. And where does that leave the one left behind?

"Those who speak of a second chance must know that nowhere in the world where divorce is available, is this limited to a second chance".

Neither is separation limited to a second chance. Should we ban marriage separation?

yaz tabone

Jul 8th 2010, 10:21

u know theres seperation aswel dnt u?
a couple is not gna stay together just cos they cant get a divorce!

Kevin Cassar

Jul 8th 2010, 13:33

1. A country does not hold a religion, the people do.
2. While the majority are Catholics, a good number is not. Divorce should only be relevant to this minority.
3. Those who oppose the introduction of divorce because of Religious reasons are being hypocritical because if they fear the introduction of divorce, it means that they only obey God because they are not allowed to do otherwise and not because they have a strong belief. Otherwise it would not be an issue at all.
4. You say DIVORCE IS THERE TO BREAK FAMILIES - that's just silly. The introduction of divorce will not break my family, or that of those who have a good marriage.
5. "Konna u ghadna nghixu f'pajjiz tal Mickey Mouse" - I agree 100% but for the exact opposite reasons.

Kenneth Cassar

Jul 8th 2010, 08:32

Learned a new word, have we? How about learning a new one: ad hominem.

Charles Grixti

Jul 8th 2010, 17:45


Perhaps it has escaped your attention that the whole world has given substance to the argument in favour of divorce, the only "odd-man outs" being Malta, the Philippines and for obvious reasons, the Vatican.

Called "insubstantial gobbledygook" the arguments in favour of divorce put forth by readers is ludicrous, since many of the same concepts that they are arguing for divorce are also backed by volumes of legal reasoning, precepts and principles the world over. And that is why all other modern States have Divorce Legislation on their books.

Kevin Cassar

Jul 7th 2010, 18:30

Do you want the quick answer or the scientific one? The quick one is "because you can't". That's the sort of answer that unfortunately many on these bogs will give you. The scientific reason is that you are not built like Usain (not husain). If you would run as fast as bolt with your current build (not possible but let's speculate) you would damage your joints (ankles and knees). In fact that's the limit of every human. In order to run faster one needs bigger muscles which in turn need stronger joints and better shock absorbtion. Believe it or not it's the latter that in reality puts a limit to our maximum speed - Our legs run as fast as is permitted by the impact our feet make on the ground. I know your question was not a serious one but I felt like answering it just the same to prove my point about being able to give substance to any claim or view one may profess.

Kenneth Cassar

Jul 8th 2010, 08:34

Pray that your wife doesn't read this ;)

David Buttigieg

Jul 7th 2010, 16:53

Simple, you divorce three or four times if necessary

But you are implying people will 'marry for fun'! As if anyone would bother getting married in the first place if all they want is fun!

Dr Francis Saliba

Jul 8th 2010, 06:58

MOLTISSIMI, ASPETTI E VEDRAI !

David Buttigieg

Jul 8th 2010, 10:16

@Francis Saliba,

And that's the beauty of it, those who do care about what the church says will never have divorce imposed upon them!

NOWHERE IN THE WORLD IS DIVORCE IMPOSED UPON ANY CATHOLIC!

Ben Dover

Jul 7th 2010, 13:08

Exactly. Divorce doesn't create unstable marriages or broken families. PEOPLE do! If the father is a drunkard who beats his wife or the mother is a drug-addict they shouldn't have been "married" in the first place!

Please, we're maltese! If we don't like something, we ditch! "divorce" already happens all the time without these people telling us otherwise. It's all a ploy that a lot of maltese will happily swallow: "Priests say we shouldn't do this, so if I don't do it I am NOT CHRISTIAN!".

And then they start shouting "FOR THE LORD" etc etc while they vote, thinking they're in the right.

John Vella

Jul 7th 2010, 13:21

well said!! :D iktar nisma b'separazzjonijiet milli bi zwiegijiet!! hahaha!!!

Dawn Cummings

Jul 7th 2010, 13:18

Ija prosit hi...parir bomba eh! Sorry imma mhux kullhadd furtunat bhalek.

Jien m'ghandix €1650 (skont habib tieghi li ghamila x-xahar li ghadda) biex niftaha il-kawza...ahseb u ara biex nkompliha. Min fejn ha ngibhom? Ittihomli int? U f'sena tlesti jekk m'hemmx problemi u glied eh...u jekk hadt ma jaccetta it-tort...nibqa sejra snin diehla u hierga l-qorti jigifieri?

B'dan il-'bill' Dr. Pullicino Orlando naqbel jien...ghax dega 4 snin separata u nahseb bih ghandi (izjed) cans nerga ikolli id-dritt nizzewweg ghax xtaqt familja jien...u mhux nibqa fil 'limbo ghal dejjem'.

Kenneth Cassar

Jul 8th 2010, 10:53

@ Dawn Cummings:

Divorzju wisq probabli jigi jiswa aktar min annullament. Biss, annullament japplika biss ghal kazijiet estremi (li jridu jigu ipprovati). Barra min hekk, annullament ma jinghatax jekk "tradiment" isehh wara z-zwieg.

Ghal min qed jghid li ma hawnx bzonn divorzju ghax hawn l-annullament (mhux qed nirreferi ghalik), ma jafx x'inhu jghid.

Ha nghati exempju. Jekk tizzewweg illum u ghada ir-ragel jew il-mara jiddeciedi/tiddeciedi li titilqek, dan mhux kaz ta annullament.

Kevin Cassar

Jul 7th 2010, 12:16

First of all I would like to make you aware (if you aren't) that writing a full text message in Capitals is considered "shouting" and is very impolite. The main issue is not the financial isssue. If the top priority of the Government in all social issues was finance, we would surely do away with our free hospital service (which is paid through taxes) and free education (same). Actually the hospital example is a very similar scenario to the divorce issue. No one is in favour of having an operation, but if you have a life threatening illness, you will be grateful that you have the option. Similarly many people live very unhealthy lives and thus become a burden on the whole of society. Should we tell these people that it was they who chose to live unhealthy and now they have to deal with it, or do we cure them? Similarly a failed marriage can be the person's fault and sometimes is not. Still while the ideal would be to educate people so that they make the right decisions, we still have an obligation to help the people that fail to do so. It benefits us all.

M Gauci

Jul 7th 2010, 13:48

Just because you are supporting a particular church and its bleiefs, doesnt mean that you have to force your beliefs on others who may not be as lucky as you. Gesu kien qal "hobb lil ghajrek bhalek innifek" meaning li jekk inti sibt xorti fiz-zwieg u qieghed kuntent, haddiehor jist jkun ghaddej min martirju u jixtieq ikollu opportunita li jghix kuntent ma persuna ohra minghar ir-riperkussjonijiet negattivi li ggib maghha konvivenza.

If you believe that Maltese do not need divorce to live happily ever after, then rest assured that the figures will be low. Ma nahsibx li xi hadd se japplika id-divorce b'kapricc!

A. Bartolo

Jul 7th 2010, 15:03

@R. Borg
You seem to be worried about yr pocket more than your moral "conscience". Strange that you should mix prayer up with finance, don't you think? Or maybe not....

Olina Tretyak

Jul 7th 2010, 15:00

@Jane Galea

For the last 10 years I spoke with more than 10 people getting their annulments and all of them said it was LM5000.
I believe that your relative got it for EUR400, for anything can happen in this Country.
There is no need for names calling if your data does not match with someone else's.
I will be pleased to know that Church started to charge less for the happiness of Catholics, if the sum you mentioned applies for every case.

a muscat

Jul 7th 2010, 11:40

as opposed to you I guess hux?

Kenneth Cassar

Jul 7th 2010, 11:19

We knew that already. However, your words are not binding on non-Catholics, regardless of how much you would like them to be.

A.Attard

Jul 7th 2010, 11:35

why should non catholics marry anyway ? problem solved

David Buttigieg

Jul 7th 2010, 12:26

@ A. Attard

What typical Catholic arrogance to presume marriage is a Catholic monopoly!

So according to you all those who marry outside the church are not married!

Hah!

B.Glanville

Jul 7th 2010, 12:48

What do you mean why should non catholics marry? The concept of marriage is older than christianity.

Ben Dover

Jul 7th 2010, 13:04

Exactly A. Attard. It makes no sense.

"Marriage" in our sense is simply a ritual. A contract. christians have been brainwashed into firmly believing marriage is somehow "a sacred bond". It's nothing but a contract, a placebo. Love's the only thing that matters. You don't love someone less because there's no contract telling you such, cause if you do then you're with the wrong guy.

It's just another ploy to get money out of your pockets and into theirs. Y'know how I'm getting married? At the pub with a tall glass of strongbow and a great night in bed, because I don't need a man in a funny hat telling me hocus pocus and having it cost thousands of euros. I can use that money to go on a LOOOOOOONG honeymoon with my beloved.

J Farrugia

Jul 7th 2010, 13:10

Kenneth Malta is a catholic country and will not disavow this traditional way of life. You were born out of catholic parents mother and father. If you steered away from this family way of life, it's your funeral.

Dawn Cummings

Jul 7th 2010, 13:20

Who cares...this is state matter...you are on the wrong blog...

Jack Sparrow

Jul 7th 2010, 14:58

They marry civilly and/or through other religions. Catholicism doesn't hold a monopoly over marriages, as you've probably been led to believe since the day you were born.

Ben Dover

Jul 7th 2010, 16:38

J. Farrugia, I like how you speak as if Malta's never going to change and will remain some medieval bastion of christianity, like you can know the future and the sentiments of your fellows.

This is the first step for Malta to enter the 21st century. Malta is mostly pagan regardless, we stopped behaving like proper christians the moment we got independence.

Besides, people "divorce" all the time already. Y'know how they do it? "Mary, we're through. don't contact me again.", they leave the house and go their separate ways. Divorce laws only make it legal and less of a hassle. People stopped caring what the bible says long, long ago.

Kenneth Cassar

Jul 8th 2010, 08:37

@ A Attard:

"why should non catholics marry anyway ? problem solved".

Why not? Because you say so?

Kenneth Cassar

Jul 8th 2010, 08:41

@ J Farrugia:

"Kenneth Malta is a catholic country and will not disavow this traditional way of life".

Have you seen the current Times poll?

"You were born out of catholic parents mother and father".

How would you know? In any case, that's irrelevant.

"If you steered away from this family way of life, it's your funeral".

It would be my funeral only if someone killed me just because I don't share his/her beliefs despite lack of any evidence either way.

A. Spiteri

Jul 7th 2010, 11:12

Divorce is a personal choice. Who wants to divorce has every right to do so. No-one is putting a gun to their head and forcing them to divorce. Practicing catholics are free not to divorce but those who want to should be able to. That is the issue. The Church has every right to voice its opinion, but there is a huge difference between voicing your opinion and trying to impose it on everyone. You make me sick.

Kenneth Cassar

Jul 7th 2010, 11:21

We know that already. But you seem to forget that not everyone is Catholic.

David Buttigieg

Jul 7th 2010, 12:15

@ Mgr.Victor Zammit McKeon

"FROM THE COMPENDIUM OF THE CATHOLIC CHURCH"

Well, those who give two hoots about the compendium of the Catholic Church need not divoce!

The rest can go about their lives as they please!

Joe Xuereb

Jul 7th 2010, 13:14

@McKeown, are you prepared to ban Salome the Strauss opera? It is the non-fictional tale of a BIBLICAL child-princess turned whore because she lusted after the head of john the baptist. She was murdered by her paedophile step-father Herod, who, if I remember rightly, wanted all babies killed to ensure that baby jesus was. He was terrified of an infant and his psychosis was evident. People are upset when they see - if they are forced to see, since we're talking expensive seats in a theatre - psychosis on stage. Well, the immature are. So Salome has to go, banned and burned. What are you waiting for. Advise your near-relative to ban this filthy representation of a bible story.

Olina Tretyak

Jul 7th 2010, 15:09

@Mgr.Victor Zammit McKeon

People who are separated, how many of them have new relationships?

In the eyes of Church they all live in sin.
In the eyes of church, they re-marry new partners or not, they still live in the same sin.

So what's they difference does it make for Church, do they re-marry or not?

On my opinion, if they do not re-marry, they live in bigger sin because they break 2 rules at once: adultary and cohabiing.
If they will re-marry, there will be one sin less and only adultary will count.

Does Church want to free it's Catholics from a sin of cohabiting?

Dawn Cummings

Jul 7th 2010, 13:21

Apart of all being written in capital letters...I agree
:)

F Borg

Jul 7th 2010, 13:30

I can see who is the hypocrate here, and certainly it is not JPO! Maybe divorce wasn't on his electoral agenda, but neither was the huge rise in electricity bills, gas, fuel and etc etc etc! Dont't you and your family, (R.Borg), feel betrayed by the PN, since none of this was on their agenda when you voted for them? So who took whom for a ride here? Why do certain people hide behind their so called "catholic values", when they have contributed through their decisions to put the majority of the people in a state where they have to struggle to pay the bills, let alone live a decent life? Where is their "catholic values" and social consciousness here?? Give us a break and let the people decide for themselves, why don't we have a referendum on this? Mr. Gonzi, please stop hiding behind your so called catholic principles and people's mandate and give the people their right to vote on this. And in the meantime, R.Borg can pray us much as he likes for our beautiful country, he will not be the only one I am sure. GO FOR IT JPO, YOU'RE THE MAN!

Kenneth Cassar

Jul 7th 2010, 11:23

Jahasra ghal naqra kontroll fuq il-hajja ta haddiehor, kemm jirvina hajjiet in-"nisrani".

jane deguara nee hughes

Jul 7th 2010, 09:27

why is it wrong??? if a marriage has broke down and there is no love between the two partys then whats the point in living together. ok you can get separated here in Malta... but what if you are still very young and find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.. if you are not separated you dont know what people are going through.. and getting devoiced does not lead to abotion... i hope it goes through, i am separated and i was 36 when my husband left me with 4 small children ages 15 to 7...

Jason Fenech

Jul 7th 2010, 09:49

@Spiteri : Your comments should remind everyone why religion has no place in state affairs!

Paul Savona

Jul 7th 2010, 09:59

WOW.

Sorry, cannot agree. In fact I would say that it is quite the opposite. If a person is in a loveless marriage and are forced to remain in it, they WILL commit adultary.

Also, it is up to the individual to decide if they want to be "good" or "bad". The church can guide, and rightly so, but obviously cannot impose. I for one, have no problem with what concenting adults do as long as it is not againt the law and no one is hurt in the process. It should also be noted that now-a-days people tend to believe in themselves to decide who is wrong and what is right.

You jumped from talking about a bill to get out of a loveless marriage to being in the same playing field as euthanasia. Quite an extreme comment.

l.azzopardi

Jul 7th 2010, 15:03

are you from planet earth?

Julian Borg

Jul 7th 2010, 18:29

If an action you do 'for others' does not require sacrifice on your part, then by definition that action cannot be said to be an altruistic one. And what makes a society civilised is NOT altruism, but the mutual respect by its citizens of each others' 'selfish' individual rights.

Anyway, I don't expect us to agree on any of this. From what I gather, we're on completely different wavelengths when it comes to our outlook on life. Best wishes.

L Vella

Jul 7th 2010, 11:43

Ma nistax nifhem kif tista thares lejn dawn iz-zewg affarijiet bhala kumparabbli. Min jisraq u joqtol qieghed jaffetwa hajjet haddiehor b'mod negattiv ghall- ahhar. Id- divorzju huwa ghazla personali. Jekk ma tridx tiddivorzja, hadd m'hu ser igieghlek. Nahseb ghandek bzonn taqbad dizzjunarju f'idejk u forsi anke thaddem xi ftit il-logica habib.

Thomas Kent

Jul 6th 2010, 22:53

Very right statements. Good formation is the key. And a good point should be to remind that marriage is not "merely" a Catholic value -as part of Revelation- but a natural value in itself, that is at the basis of any society, Christian or not.

victor rodenas

Jul 6th 2010, 23:05

To become a Priest one has to pass many years of rigorous training ,University etc, etc.Training at top level,....and still you find some Priests who leave the priesthood...this proves that preparation (or lack of it)is not the main reason why marriages fail.

yaz tabone

Jul 7th 2010, 08:03

i am both in favour of abortion n divorce.. even tho abortion isnt legal at least i can go abroad so i have a choice.. its different withh divorce.

how is divorce a burden to society? n how is seperation not? for the kids its the same n sometimes its better having split parents than parents that argue all the time

Peter Spiteri

Jul 7th 2010, 11:30

Are you also in favour of euthanasia yaz tabone?

Samantha Grima

Jul 7th 2010, 11:35

You are very right Mr George Cremona. Today's kids who engage in sexual activity like hot dogs and bitches even when having just met and continuing after marriage with different partners is the cause of many if not all troubles in marriages. Yes Mr Cremona, today's kids are just like hot dogs and bitches only seeking sexual pleasures and not wanting to care for each other in marriage till death do us part. That is why they want divorce, to get rid of each other as soon as the first sign of trouble crops up.

yaz tabone

Jul 8th 2010, 10:47

yes in a way i do, wouldnt u put a dog down if he was suffering? i think its cruel to leave a dog in horrible pain. just like i would hate for a loved one to be kept alive on a life support for years.

s grima - wer u born in the 50s? only that would explain ur lack of knowledge on this subject. u think divorce is only used just wen one is 'bored'?? do me a favour n open ur eyes. wat bout the men that physically abuse their wife n kids, should the women stay put just so people like YOU will b happy? wat difference should it make for u? live ur own life n let others live theirs!

H Zammit

Jul 6th 2010, 22:41

I wonder from where you get your wisdom!

Elaine Compagno

Jul 7th 2010, 08:15

Spot on.



Joe Xuereb

Jul 7th 2010, 13:29

@ H.Zammit. Is that a compliment or a sarcastic dig at me? About my 'wisdom' I mean. If you're being sarcastic, and for all that it is worth, my wisdom source is commonly available to anybody who wants to get a life. It is called commonsense. And you know what?! I make no apologies for the fact that the response you expected is not some 'world-shattering' truth.
@ Elaine Compagno. Thank you.

lgalea

Jul 7th 2010, 07:25

C Gatt Good Observation Mr/s Gatt

Michael Camilleri

Jul 6th 2010, 21:37

How so? By standing up for a right that is granted in all countries except Malta and the Philippines?

Jack Sparrow

Jul 6th 2010, 20:26

Maybe same thing we've been teaching them despite having annulment and separation available for ages?

Or rather, maybe we'd better teach them some common sense, mhux telghin qishom tfal tal-mamma kapaci ghal-xejn.

Charles Grixti

Jul 6th 2010, 20:48

Such namby-pamby sugar coated explanations belittle all those who are suffering in bad marriages - married life is not a kindergarten! Marriage breakdown and spousal and child abuse are not solved by a friendly condescending chats but by the strong arm of the Law which can dissolve such abusive unions legally and by giving all parties, including children, a fresh start and a new chance to a happy family life.

You can produce all the nice talk you want, but one punch to the face from a brutal spouse has the power to change your mind about the meaning of 'nice' and resolving issues through discussion like you were taught when young. Not everyone inhabits your Cinderella fairytale land.

Raymond Camilleri

Jul 6th 2010, 21:36

The 'thought police'! You should not THINK about divorce.... some people!

i.tabone

Jul 6th 2010, 21:38

My friend: l-antiki kienu jghidu li l-ewwl zwieg huwa sacrament it-tieni zwieg disprament u t-tielet zwieg dannament min irid jifhem.

victor pulis

Jul 6th 2010, 22:59

We should teach children the realities of life. We should teach them that sometimes despite all good intentions life doesn't work out the way we want it to .Attempts at reconciliation is all well and good but it doesn't always work as in everyrthing else in life. Scientists and medics do everything in their power to prevent disease and yet we build hospitals because we know it for a fact that people will continue to fall ill no matter the precautions. When talking about marriage we are talking about the realtion between two individuals who I am certain did not have divorce on their mind as they walked down the aisle. True today's way of life opens marriages to a lot of temptations and difficulties but let's not delude ourselves that there were no broken marriages in the past. It's just that they were kept under wraps. Women were more dependant on their husbands so they suffered in silence.

jscerri

Jul 6th 2010, 23:06

lame analogy

Vanessa Bonnici

Jul 7th 2010, 15:06

@ Charles Grixti Hear Hear!!!!
@ Melly Grech - So if a child is being abused by a parent should the other parent teach that child to ...turn the other cheek....or keep quiet......Come down off your pedestal and look around at the real world!!!

Steve Pace

Jul 6th 2010, 20:01

Oh... if only any political party fired anyone who did not adhere to a manifest. Oh what a clean parliament we would have.... from what i saw lately , we would have a vacancy in the education department for starters.

Kurt G Pace

Jul 6th 2010, 20:26

Dismiss JPO?? Why?... Because he has the guts to speak up? U halliena. Enough words, Time for action!! Well done JPO

jane deguara nee hughes

Jul 7th 2010, 08:27

i say well done to J.P.O at least someone has the gust to do something, at long last we are in 2010 not 1800!!!

Raphael Vassallo

Jul 7th 2010, 12:46

Um... hate to break the news, but if the PN expels JPO it would automatically lose its parliamentary majority and be forced to relinquish government.

David Buttigieg

Jul 6th 2010, 18:13

"Min qieghed fil-politika ghandu d-dmir li jmexxi l-pajjiz b'mod Kristjan u jimxi fuq il-passi tal-Bibbja" Why?

Mario Muscat

Jul 6th 2010, 18:24

Just to remind you that you are living in Malta not Iran.

Dennis Agius

Jul 6th 2010, 19:53

MELLY GRECH, JEKK IKOLLOK IR RAGEL ISAWTEK TITILQUX TA HALLI GHADA JEW PITGHADA JERGA JTIK XEBA OHRA, U OHRA U OHRA, U IBQA BIL VALURI KRISTJANI, IBQA MIEGHU HA TISPICCA PUNCHING BAG, U JEKK TKUN GHADEK ZGHIRA FIZ ZMIEN IBQA GHIX WAHDEK IKKUNDANNATA GHAL OMROK MINHABBA PERSUNA. GET IN THE REAL LIFE PLEASE!

jscerri

Jul 6th 2010, 23:12

what the bible says (or you say it says..) and the national law are to be kept distinct

L Vella

Jul 6th 2010, 18:13

I don't think anyone is expecting the church to speak in favour of divorce..what most people are hoping for is that politicians will make the first step in turning Malta into a secularized country and disregard the views of the church on such a matter.

Steve Pace

Jul 6th 2010, 19:16

The church cannot favour divorce as it goes against the teachings of its founder, Jesus Christ. – in a few words ‘the Church does not sell divorce’. Agreed. We are not expecting the church to replace annulments with divorce. We are also not expecting the church to interfere in state affairs and civil marriages . This is apart from the fact that it knows that divorce bring havoc to marriages Sure, so does seperation, annulment and many other bad situations. Your point being ?

J.Tonna

Jul 6th 2010, 22:19

@ Steve Pace - So do you expect the Church to shut her mouth and not telling us what is right and what is wrong according to our faith? No, the church has the duty to do so and she will never forget her obligation.

LVella

Jul 6th 2010, 17:54

Ma nafx jekk fhimtx sew, imma int qieghed tghid li arcisqof li ghamel interdett fuq il laburisti kollha u qal li ghandhom jindifnu fil-mizbla, fosthom Guze Ellul Mercer, huwa ezempju ta' min jimxi fuqu?

victor pulis

Jul 6th 2010, 17:41

Does that mean that a childless couple can divorce? I don't find any mention of such a situation in the gospel!

B. Cachia

Jul 6th 2010, 17:51

You appear to be mixing divorce with separation. With or without divorce couples can obviously still separate and find other partners, as they do now in ever increasing numbers. The only difference if divorce is introduced would be that instead of cohabiting with their second partner people might choose to marry a second time and try to create a somewhat more stable environment for themselves and their children.

Ramon Casha

Jul 6th 2010, 17:51

Yes, I do - thanks for asking. Perhaps you don't know anyone whose first marriage failed. I do. I know of women whose husband used to beat them. They left, both for their own sake and for their children's - they didn't want their children to be brought up in that environment, or to learn by example to do the same. Why should a woman in such a situation remain married to him - whether or not she decides to remarry? Remember that physical abuse is not in itself grounds for annulment unless it was something that existed prior to marriage but was kept hidden.

David Caruana

Jul 6th 2010, 16:54

Pack Off?!?!

Rest assured he'll be elected, as we say in Maltese, sparat qishu rocket, come next election!

Then maybe you should be the one to pack off and go to the Philippines where people cannot divorce and men get literally crucified for Good Friday

Kat Gauci

Jul 6th 2010, 19:14

Pack off?!!!! He has my vote, big time!!

Graham Crocker

Jul 6th 2010, 21:16

I don't see why people have to live with broken marriages, because people like you like interfering in other peoples lives.

Anyways it won't pass, so its useless to get angry or argue...

J Herrera

Jul 6th 2010, 17:32

... and a 3rd chance, and a 4th chance, a 5th, a 6th .....

Jack Sparrow

Jul 6th 2010, 16:32

Malta is backwards in everything, not just in this regard.

Jack Sparrow

Jul 6th 2010, 16:30

JPO is Maltese and Catholic. And maybe Olina Tretyak is too. I wonder how you come to such conclusions.

Olina Tretyak

Jul 6th 2010, 16:38

@Peter Spiteri

People want to change laws and policies on the land they live by the reason that they are under jurisdiction of the land they live on.




Peter Spiteri

Jul 7th 2010, 11:27

People change the laws for the better not for the worse as happens with divorce Olina.

Olina Tretyak

Jul 7th 2010, 20:28

@Peter Spiteri
Can you explain me what harm divorce brings to the society with Legal Separations?
Divorce is nothing mre than opportunity of re-marrying if Legal Separation, as means of breaking marriages, is widely aspread, available and affordable.

Jack Sparrow

Jul 6th 2010, 16:29

Because it seems that in this country we always need somebody to tell us what to do and follow strict instructions. Without that, we're like lost sheep, without brains to decide what's best for us ourselves.

That's what you get after long years of being a colony and servant to foreigners. Maybe we should have remained that way. At least we would have gotten something in return.

c spiteri

Jul 6th 2010, 16:30

@ Ron saliba GHAX GHADOM JEJXU FI ZMIEN TAL BABAW

Joe Borg

Jul 6th 2010, 23:33

Ron Saliba "and ONLY them can have a say whether they want it or not"
I need a few million euros and dollars. According to you I only can say whether I want them or not. So I just go to the Government and demand what I want. That is how you are reasoning.

B. Cachia

Jul 6th 2010, 17:24

The rights of the individual should only be sacrificed when it is absolutely essential and not in a capricious manner. In this particular case it is quite plain that the denial of this basic right causes grave and real harm to individuals while providing very questionable (possibly non-existent) benefits for society (itself made up of individuals).

One must point out also that historically the fact that we do not have divorce in Malta was not the result of some debate as to the weight that should be given to the rights of the individual versus the interests of society as a whole. It was simply the result of a failure to distinguish between church and state.

Joe Grima

Jul 6th 2010, 19:24

Ftakar fi kliem Eddie " Jew wara l-elezzjoni li gejja, jew qabel". Mhux leader kellkom, profeta. Avolja min jaf kemm qed jitaqalleb bil mozzjoni ta JPO. Tahseb li ghada jmur jaghti palata lill Gonzi ?

Julian Borg

Jul 6th 2010, 22:07

@ Dr. Francis Saliba

" I value the good of society as a whole more than the selfish personal freedom of the individual."

My point exactly. You establish what a 'happy society' ("as a whole", to boot!) ought to be like, then expect all individuals in that society to lead their lives accordingly. The fallacy in this way of thinking - as Marxism has amply demonstrated - is that it's not a 'happy society' that produces happy individuals, but the other way round.

Moreover, there's nothing wrong with "selfish personal freedoms" as long as they are not used to coerce other individuals, and this is not the case with divorce. Selfish personal freedoms have made the western-world's fortune, by the way.

"Clearly, I hold that view from an altruistic point of view and not “as a means to (my) own ends." Impressive: altruism towards society - an abstract concept! Now THAT must require a lot of effort and sacrifice on your part.

David Caruana

Jul 6th 2010, 16:15

That would be the day!

Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And NO RELIGION too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace

Jack Sparrow

Jul 6th 2010, 16:18

We heard you the first time. There's no need to be repetitive.

c spiteri

Jul 6th 2010, 16:36

@m attard HATIBDEW TBEZZAW IN NIES ..IN NIES TAL LUM MADOMX INJORANTI

Mark Borg

Jul 6th 2010, 16:39

Why do you want there to be rules in place that control important parts of people's lives? Let people live their own lives is what I say!

L Vella

Jul 6th 2010, 16:13

What in the world are you saying? "Good fruit"? Brainwashed fruit, more like.

David Caruana

Jul 6th 2010, 16:32

Get yourself some deodorant.... and get real, boy!

Kevin Cassar

Jul 6th 2010, 16:26

"I agree, and it would be foolish to think that children are not negatively affected by divorce, however the alternative, seeing their parents forced together and at each other's throats is equally bad!"

No David, it's actually MUCH WORSE!

David Buttigieg

Jul 6th 2010, 16:01

@M.Attard

"Right , so we introduce the 'divorce', then the 'abortion' and then what ......?May be we demolsih our churches and our religion? and then what else???????"

What in God's name has abortion got to do with divorce?

Also, YOUR church and YOUR religion is not everybody "OURS" too!

L Vella

Jul 6th 2010, 16:02

Then we should demolish the tie between church and state. But alas, that is simply wishful thinking.

Jack Sparrow

Jul 6th 2010, 16:04

Then we'd be like the rest of the developed world, where people's religion is determined by personal choice rather than because it says so in the constitution. It will be the end of hypocrisy. What a terrible scenario!

Miguel Micallef

Jul 6th 2010, 16:04

This is about divorce not tearing down churches. But since you are suggesting it, I do agree that most of the churches need to be thorn down. Thanks for pointing it out.

Olina Tretyak

Jul 6th 2010, 16:08

@M.Attard

An opportunity for children born in second families to become legitimate not equals to opportunity to kill other children legitimately.

Rethink your comment please.

Kevin Cassar

Jul 6th 2010, 16:24

If divorce is introduced - you still have to CHOOSE to divorce and NOBODY will force you to do so
If abortion is legalized - you still have to CHOOSE to abort and NOBODY will force you to do so
While demolishing the Churches and your religion seems like a good idea for people of other religions or no religion, this will NEVER happen in Malta, and even if it incredibly did, you would still be free to believe, just as those from other religions do, and non believers don't. The real problem is that people like you want to decide for others, when they have absolutely no right to do so. And please (to all others) stop using children as an excuse. While the best thing in an ideal world would be to have all children grow up in a strong loving family, the truth is that when the married couple are not i love any more, the children suffer even more if a couple that hate eachother stay together. These children usually suffer the abuse of living in a hostile home, and are not getting a very positive image of marriage. This will have serious consequences later.

Kenneth Cassar

Jul 7th 2010, 07:09

Then we start eating children. Get real!

jolene cini

Jul 6th 2010, 17:20

U zgur li se jibqa jissemma...missu le ...ghall iskandlu tal Mistra imma....hallina

M. Spiteri

Jul 7th 2010, 11:27

Mr. Spiteri, dik l 80% ghamilt xi studju dwarha, jew hlomt biha bil lejl?

wally vella-zarb

Jul 6th 2010, 16:49

Yes, of course. If you read the article in Le Figaro, the reasoning behind the authors' conclusion is simply that friends of a divorced ex-couple, who are in the same situation as the couple were prior to their divorce, would probably be heartened by their friends' success to pluck enough courage and take the plunge themselves so that they, too, can get a second chance at a happily married life. There is nothing mystifying in that.

L Vella

Jul 6th 2010, 15:37

Ghalija diga' gabru giehu..haqqu medalja ta din.

Kat Gauci

Jul 6th 2010, 15:39

why should they vote in secret? Free yes, but secret no. I would want to know who actually represents my opinion.

Raymond Camilleri

Jul 6th 2010, 15:57

Hehehe...it is REALLY FUN seeing the reaction of conservative PN voters... what can I sat George Scicluna? Haqqkom!

David Buttigieg

Jul 6th 2010, 15:34

"it is extremely undemocratic for the minority to impose its views on the majority."

AGREED! Well said!!

Now just explain how couples who choose to divorce are imposing their views on you or "the majority"?

PLEASE explain it!

David Buttigieg

Jul 6th 2010, 15:26

To avoid all that just choose not to divorce!

Allow other adults to choose their own way!

yaz tabone

Jul 6th 2010, 15:29

until divorce is legalized, i will not be gettin married

do u know how many couples are seperated?? families are still split, no divorce just doesnt allow the couple to carry on with their new life easily

Pawlu Scicluna

Jul 6th 2010, 23:51

Thanks for showing the people why you want divorce Ms? yaz tabone. Simply to leave your husband/wife whenever you feel like it and get another partner.

Olina Tretyak

Jul 6th 2010, 15:35

It is not the matter of introducing a new issue, it is a matter of dividing the income.
Till now income was shared: lawyers were taking the separation part and Church was taking the annulment part.
Church had less clients and charged EUR 12 000.
Business never stopped running, but far not all people could afford the re-marrying part.

So, the introduction of divorce is actually only an introduction of re-marrying for cheaper than before. It is not about breaking the marriages - the Family Court does it well enough. Divorce is about making new marriages easier.

If one wants to decrease breaking the marriages, he has to look into how Family Court works. All families pass bad times, but the way Family Court works in Malta there is no possibility for couples to get back together after difficult time is over.
Lawyers, encouraging clients to throw dirt on each other during separations and no one really looking for solutions - leaves no chance for furture re-union.


Raymond Bezzina

Jul 6th 2010, 15:42

Which country do you come from ?

Olina Tretyak

Jul 6th 2010, 16:00

@Raymond Bezzina
I am flattered that you are interested in my personal history, however I would like to stay on the topic.

You was asking of evidences what good can make divorce to society.

Let's call divorce "re-marrying" and good will be evident.

What do you call "divorce" is actually the same separation Malta has already but with the right for people to re-marry cheaper than it was before.

Raymond Bezzina

Jul 6th 2010, 16:43

Why didn' t you mention the country that you come from ?

I have asked this question to see whether the infanticide by
abortion is legalised in your country, where abortionists are making
a lot of money out of the heinious murders of those innocent and
defenceless children.

Olina Tretyak

Jul 6th 2010, 16:50

@Raymond Bezzina

An opportunity for children born in second families to become legitimate not equals to opportunity to kill other children legitimately.

Olina Tretyak

Jul 6th 2010, 16:57

@Raymond Bezzina

Speaking about economical part of abortions, in many countries abortions are free for citizens in government hospitals. The same as divorces are free as government registration of civil act.

In Malta one can't separate without hiring a lawyer and can't get re-marrying (read annulment) without paying high fee to church.

Raymond Bezzina

Jul 6th 2010, 17:21

Since you prefer to remain making your comments from an anonymous
country, I choose to discontinue this conversation.

Cowardice is not my motto.

Emma Xerri

Jul 6th 2010, 17:44

@Raymond Bezzina

Here we go again, trying to obfuscate the issue and equate Divorce with abortion!

Give it a rest will you!

Charles Grixti

Jul 6th 2010, 19:43

@Raymond Bezzina What does it matter where Ms. Tretyak comes from? What a childish excuse not to engage her in debate. I am sure she is from the planet earth and as far as I know, the human condition is the same everywhere. And that is why the Universal Declaration of Human Rights should be the law in each and every country on earth, irrespective of religion or cult that is prevailing in a culture. Religion should be a matter of private choice and not an imposition from above by clerical diktats. And since unfortunately this is not the case yet, that is why we have a beautiful woman in Iran scheduled to be stoned to death for alleged adultery - give religions the upper hand and out go human rights, especially for women, gays and children. All fundamentalist religions are the same in this respect; it is just a matter of degree or more precisely how much they are allowed to get away with. Five hundred years ago, the Church was burning 'heretics' and midwives right in the heart of Europe that is until the Age of Reason and Enlightenment and the Reformation put a curb on its hegemony.

Olina Tretyak

Jul 6th 2010, 20:36

@Raymond Bezzina

I repeat the answer because I did not find it published.
An anonymous country I am making my comments from has name Malta.

I find it rude to question people before introducing oneselves. By any chance, is it country Insaneland you are making your comments from?

LVella

Jul 6th 2010, 15:18

Oh dear! And in what way is the minority imposing something on the majority? Are you being made to divorce even if you don't want to? Didn't think so..

K. Pullicino

Jul 6th 2010, 15:38

"i ll never get married until divorce is introduced"

This is the reason why I'm inclined to disagree with divorce.

yaz tabone

Jul 6th 2010, 15:44

fine, u dnt have to get one.. but forcing someone to have to stay involved with someone else is downright selfish n disgusting! wat if 'my husband' becomes abusive?? i have to stay married just so i dnt upset the religious people??

K. Pullicino

Jul 6th 2010, 16:06

You're very annoyed at these so-called "religious people", aren't you?

Let me remind you that the first people to mention the Catholic Church on this page were the ones that are fully for divorce.

I'm afraid to say that the principle argument for divorce as seen here is "The Catholic Church is against it! I'm against everything the Catholic Church says so I'm for divorce!"

It's naive to say "Live and let live!" In this reality we live in, even your most humble actions will have far reaching consequences into the future and denying that means you're looking up to the tip of your nose.

L Vella

Jul 6th 2010, 17:43

You make a very poor argument, mr. Pullicino. Please elaborate how the fact that "even your most humble actions will have far reaching consequences into the future" is relevant to this argument, especially in terms of the effects on other people.
Also, could you explain how you perceive "The Catholic Church is against it! I'm against everything the Catholic Church says so I'm for divorce!" to be the principle argument?
I am under the impression that we are reading a totally different page here..

Pawlu Scicluna

Jul 7th 2010, 11:17

Thanks for showing the people why you want divorce Ms? yaz tabone. Simply to leave your husband/wife whenever you feel like it and get another partner.

Jeremy J Camilleri

Jul 6th 2010, 15:06

P Vincenti..The Catholic Church has not been elected in Parliament as far as I know....

This matter is purely a civil one. Catholics should not fear divorce as they are not forced to use it...

Of course, civil divorce will worry the aggressive Catholics who feel that it is their right to impose their moral views on others...

David Buttigieg

Jul 6th 2010, 15:08

Whilst I agree that JPO is a 'Supermarket Catholic', that is irrelevant!

Catholic politicians have to defend the rights of non-Catholic's too, and for argument's sake, judging by church attendance figures, non-Catholics now make up the majority of the Maltese population!

yaz tabone

Jul 6th 2010, 15:18

so just cos the religious ppl dnt believe in divorce, others cnt have that choice? it makes religious ppl look selfish n self centred.. thats why im proud not to be one of them :)

Ocsar Cassar

Jul 6th 2010, 15:14

Anke jekk dan jkun il-kas, Iz-zmien zgur ser jaghti ragun lil Dr Jeffrey Pullicino Orlando (PN) u li ser jibqa mfakkar bhala l-ewwel politiku li ghamel xi haga fil-konkret fuq dan is-suggett. Issa naraw haddiehor x'jaghmel u kif ser jibqa mfakkar fl-istorja. Suppost Politiku tajjeb, ma jkunx nostalgiku u minflok ghandu jiprepara u jiprevedu l-problemi ta' ghada filwaqt li jahdem fuq il-prezent. Prosit JPO

David Buttigieg

Jul 6th 2010, 14:56

Still going strong with the conspiracy theories Twanny?

David Buttigieg

Jul 6th 2010, 14:54

Yes and Joseph Muscat should have done it already but for some weird reason decided that you can only pass a private member's bill from the government benches!

Charles Grixti

Jul 6th 2010, 16:45

Whether you chose to dissolve a marriage through a Church Annulment or a Divorce, the effects are the same. So according to your illogic, if the dissolution of a marriage is done through the Church, it does not harm to society but if it was done through the State through a divorce, it damages society.

This, notwithstanding the fact that a marriage has to be already be irrevocably broken to reach the stage where an annulment or divorce is sought, therefore your imagined harm to society is baseless. Life is hard and some people have the misfortune to be in a bad marriage, they do not need condemnation but should have the legal framework to get out of the marriage.

Such are the vagaries of life - harm comes to people and society in a variety of ways, such as social injustice, greed and cruelty and until you find a way to address and solve these issues harm will always be a permanent fixture in society. To be sure a lot of harm has already been done to Maltese society due to the intransigence and imposition of fundamentalist dogmas, vide couples living together and children born out of wedlock.

James Farrugia

Jul 6th 2010, 15:20

If you are talking about Gianpula or Numero uno, I suggest giving up, because the right to entertain yourself at least during the weekend is a human right just as much as divorce :)

John J. Galea Axiak

Jul 6th 2010, 14:35

So next item on the agenda: Gay Marriages in Malta!

M. Grech

Jul 6th 2010, 14:36

It's perhaps better if children come from a divorced home than live in a home where there is much anger, angst and arguing.

J Farrugia

Jul 6th 2010, 14:22

just you wait and see. And then come from Hell and try to tell i t to your mates. As if hell doesn't exist.

David Buttigieg

Jul 6th 2010, 14:44

Exactly!

victor rodenas

Jul 6th 2010, 14:07

jekk ma jghaddix il- lum, jghaddi ghada.........ghandek xi- dubju ?

L Vella

Jul 6th 2010, 14:23

Le, mhux referendum. Anke jekk il maggoranza tal- poplu malti ma jaqbilx mad divorzju, dik il minoranza xorta wahda ghandha dritt ghalih. Min ma jaqbilx mieghu mhux qieghed jigi ffurzat jaghmel uzu minnu.

Ramon Casha

Jul 6th 2010, 14:09

What's wrong with "some peace of mind that in an eventual failure they could get divorced." If the marriage has failed, it makes no sense to remain legally married without being married in reality. Marriage should not be "endured" but enjoyed. Why put yourself, your partner and your children through a lifetime of unhappiness instead of being happy?

Ivan Scicluna - Rabat

Jul 6th 2010, 15:39

Just because I believe that divorce should and must be legal in Malta does not mean that I am fed up of marriage. There are hundreds if not thousands of broken couples who can never ever hope to start a new, better life with someone else just because divorce is illegal in Malta.

So, in your opinion, if a couple has irreconcilable issues, they MUST still live together at the detriment of making their own lives (and of their children) a living hell? Or do you suggest that they get a seperation and then "live in sin" according to the church? Damned if they do and damned if they don't.

Unlike Death and Taxes, Divorce is NOT mandatory. only those in need will opt for it.

L Vella

Jul 6th 2010, 14:18

The only preposterous thing is your comment. The commandments of the church have nothing to do with this. As a roman catholic (presumably), you have every right to follow them in every aspect, however, these rights do not extend to you trying to impose your beliefs on others who have differing ideas on what is acceptable or not. If you do not agree with divorce, no one is forcing you to do it. Well done JPO!

S Vella

Jul 6th 2010, 15:08

Please let me know where to post you my bills...

Ramon Casha

Jul 6th 2010, 14:04

You're ignoring the many young people who see marriage as a stupid, outdated institution purely because there is no divorce. They know that, as things currently stand, "married" means there's a piece of paper that says you're someone's husband/wife, whereas you actually live with someone else. Marriage without divorce is a joke.

Joseph Carmel Chetcuti

Jul 6th 2010, 14:11

I think the outcome of a referendum would indeed surprise you. I repeat what I have said many many times. Democracy is not about the 51% telling the remaining 49% what to do. It is about everyone respecting the rights of others including the rights of minorities. No Catholic is being forced to divorce. The only Catholics who would divorce are those who do not give a hoot about what their leaders say. Perhaps this is what the bishops of Malta and Gozo really fear ... a threat to their imagined authority.

Joe Grima

Jul 6th 2010, 14:21

The setting up of the mass production, mass distribution of milk bottles demolished the traditional system of a man with his goat going door to door milking his goat in tin cans. The introduction of packaged milk in cartons did away with the traditional bottle of milk. So what is wrong with setting tradition aside if what replaces it is more consonant with the age and times that one is living in.

Ramon Casha

Jul 6th 2010, 14:02

As far as the children are concerned, there is no difference between separation, divorce and annulment.

A.attard

Jul 6th 2010, 14:26

Annulment is different from both them if you cant see the difference try and annul your marriage and stop asking for divorce

David Buttigieg

Jul 6th 2010, 14:39

A Attard

I have children, and for arguments sake I am very happily married. I also personally believe divorce, or rather re-marrying is a sin!

However that is my business and I would never impose it on others, which would be a greater sin.

However, you still haven't mentioned, with all the reasons you gave, how what other people do in this regard is your business!

Ramon Casha

Jul 6th 2010, 15:01

As far as the children of a couple are concerned, the only thing they'd care about is that their parents are no longer together, whether you call it separation, divorce or annulment. Technically of course, in an annulment the marriage never existed which makes them illegitimate, but even that is not their top concern.

A.Attard

Jul 6th 2010, 15:29

I am sorry but that was quite a selfish answer a child's concern is to have a proper family

Ramon Casha

Jul 6th 2010, 16:33

Selfish answer?? You're repeating what I said... "a child's concern is to have a proper family". Separation, divorce and annulment all mean the same thing to the child: that family has fallen apart. They don't care what name you give it.

If they're lucky their parents will separate without becoming enemies. I believe that is the most critical bit.

Joseph Carmel Chetcuti

Jul 6th 2010, 14:13

Even the Church dissolves it but it opts to call it annulment. Another case of playing with words. Fancy being married for thirty years and then realizing you were never married after all because of some imagined defect.

B Sant

Jul 8th 2010, 09:47

yet im suspicious of how one media stopped attacking JPO

i dont know if JPO is playing the two party game

camilleri

Jul 6th 2010, 14:19

fiex temmen int ftit jimpurtana, l-importanti li jkun hemm ghazla gusta ghal min ghandhu bzonnha!

Anthony Formosa

Jul 6th 2010, 15:21

X'valuri insara huma? int qed tghix fil-qamar? kullhadd bil-hjara lest ghal xulxin u hallina ghax dan kollu estremizmu tieghek.

Joseph Carmel Chetcuti

Jul 6th 2010, 14:24

"You stole one of Joseph Muscat's main weapons." Who cares who introduces divorce in Malta? The debate is more important than the actors. Even so, it only goes to prove that Joseph Muscat is not an extremist as some would like to portray him and that he was right in taking the stance that he took. I congratulate both Muscat and Pullicino Orlando. And I must not forget to mention Emmy Bezzina who is the real pioneer in this regard. He has been canvassing this topic for years and I remember being one of his guests on "Il-parlament tal-poplu" when the topic divorce was discussed. That was back in the 1990s. I hope when divorce is finally introduced, Emmy Bezzina will not be one of the unsung heroes.

Ramon Casha

Jul 6th 2010, 15:05

@JCC: Oh definitely, it's not the actors that matter, though some might suspect that JPO's intention was specifically that. Still, we've got an interesting situation here. If, for the sake of argument, all of PL were to vote in favour of this law, as well as JPO, this law could pass with the opposition's vote.

Emanuel Falzon

Jul 6th 2010, 13:30

Any law or policies that are contrary to the teachings of the Catholic Church should not be supported. We want to remain fully Catholic country as converted by St. Paul 2000 years ago.

We should not support the MP's / MEP's or Political Parties that go against the teaching of the Catholic Church.

A.Magri

Jul 6th 2010, 13:35

@Emanuel Falzon
How about you live your life and let others live their own?

B. Cachia

Jul 6th 2010, 13:49

@ Emanuel Falzon: So, are you saying that people should be forced to be good catholics by law rather than being allowed to make their choice freely? Should non-Catholics also be forced by our laws to be 'good catholics'? Does this even make any sense?

Ian Pace

Jul 6th 2010, 14:49

@ Emanuel Falzon: Start being a Catholic yourself first! Then and only then try to preach what others should do!

C Gatt

Jul 6th 2010, 20:34

Flash news for Mr Falzon. St Paul did NOT convert the Maltese. There is no evidence of this. Indeed there is evidence that they became Muslim for a fair amount of time during the Arab-Siculo period and only became Christian when the Normans came down south!
Contrary to what some other correspondents are saying Divorce, admittedly a necessary evil, is more likely to protect children and spouses as it lays down legally binding rules which the current separation fiasco does not.
As things stand, children are already living with new family units and have half siblings, but the law does not have the tools to apportion rights and duties accordingly. So I fail to understand the stand the No to divorce lobby is taking. Simply taking the moral high ground and digging one's head in the sand is no way to govern.

Charles Grixti

Jul 7th 2010, 03:29

@ Emanuel Falzon

Converted by St. Paul into what? The Catholic Church did not exist when St. Paul was alive and it took nearly 400 years before the Council of Nicaea, when the Catholic Church started to coalesce. And then again its dogma and doctrine continued to be put together piecemeal, century after century, by the pronouncements of different infallible Popes and Councils. And if by good Catholics, you mean that many Maltese are hypocrites, then yes, they are good Catholics in that respect.

Stop trying to impose religion and undemocratic beliefs on your fellow citizens. If a Theocracy is what you hanker for, then you and the Archbishop should sally forth and take your pick from the many backward Theocracies that are unfortunately still with us in this day and age, albeit you will have to change religion. But going by what transpired last week with the joint conference by the Archbishop and the Imam united as one against same-sex marriage; this should not be hard to do. Go and leave us in peace.

shirley caruana

Jul 7th 2010, 15:35

@ emmanuel falzon...... brainwashed to the cells!!! I am a Christian but who am I or you to decide for others?????? Who are you to take away the freedom God gave???? Jesus commissioned the church to evangelize and not to be arrogant and prepotent. It's people like you who unfortunately scare all those in seek of the way, truth and life teachings.

Pawlu Scicluna

Jul 7th 2010, 11:18

Your surname says it all Freeman

Joe Grima

Jul 6th 2010, 14:13

There is no "rabta coff" in any the countries of the world where divorce exists. Divorce is a legal process with rigths and duties and parameters which have to be satisfied by the divorcing couple, each country formulating its own, before divorce is granted. In the same way that we have seen the horse and carraige give way to motor cars, the steamship giving way to modern cruise liners, the typewriter giving way to the computer, the eight-inch microphone giving way to a spot on your collar, and the ice box giving way to the fridge, so will conservative thinking in this country, the heel digging and foot dragging, church- sponsored theorists and a masquareded form of egotistic, antiquated relgious belief give way to divorce which will come, as Eddie used to say in another context, after the next electiion, or before.

Julain Borg

Jul 6th 2010, 14:41

I think that the proposal that a couple has to wait four years before filing for divorce is enough to put people off from entering into marriage lightly. But you might think that’s not discouraging enough. You might also think that, as a rule, people are daft and irresponsible, incapable of managing their lives and in need of protection from their own choices by those who know better. You also probably think of yourself as belonging to the latter group.

The truth, Dr. Saliba, is that it’s not other people’s happiness that you’re truly concerned about, but living in a society that conforms to your what-should-be-personal moral values. Clearly, as a means to your own ends, you value society more than you value the personal freedom of the individuals that shape it. Now isn’t that the cornerstone of totalitarianism?

Julian Borg

Jul 6th 2010, 15:34

Interesting remarks; here are some more questions to be asked about the subject: Is marriage - the institution - more valuable than the happiness of the individuals wanting to dissolve theirs? (Possibly yes, if such individuals are few enough?) Is marriage - again, the institution/contract - essential to the formation of a healthy family unit, and in what ways? What are the dynamics by which the availability of divorce results in an increase in marital breakdowns, and how does this affect individual marriages? And, given that the unavailability of divorce in Malta did nothing to halt the ever-increasing separation-rate, what are the other factors that contribute to marriage/family breakdown; the emancipation of women, consumerism, education, a more affluent society, decline in the number of citizens espousing traditional and/or religious values, mass-communication,.... the Internet? Also, what can be done about these in practice?

Ramon Casha

Jul 6th 2010, 13:34

Breaking up couples??? Divorce does the exact opposite: It allows two individuals to get married and form more stable families.

Let's face facts here: the couples who go for a divorce are no longer married in any practical sense. They don't love each other, don't live together, and usually already have formed new relationships. The only thing remaining of their marriage is a piece of paper. They're not a couple any more.

By all means let's do all we can to help couples stay together, especially if children are involved. However it's important to recognise when there is no couple any longer.

S. Vella

Jul 6th 2010, 13:18

Nahseb li bil-kontra. Diga' qe jahseb ghal l-elezjoni li gejja......miskin.

C Gatt

Jul 6th 2010, 13:26

I really wish people would qualify their statements. How does divorce create greater harm to society then separations?
As for M Attard's comment, how does not having divorce help kids living in broken marriages?

Ramon Casha

Jul 6th 2010, 13:30

Quite the opposite. Divorce does far more good than harm, both for society and for the individuals involved, including the children. Remember - you can't compare a divorced couple with a happily married couple. To be meaningful, you must compare a divorced couple with a couple whose marriage has broken down irretrievably but they're forced to remain married against their will.

Edric Micallef Figallo

Jul 6th 2010, 13:20

Exactly.

M. Mercieca

Jul 6th 2010, 22:17

and who is CO??

David Buttigieg

Jul 6th 2010, 13:25

Quite the contrary, in a matter like this which deals with people personal values, a referendum would be a most UNDEMOCRATIC way of settling this!

G. Grech

Jul 6th 2010, 13:42

JPO surely has guts. But who will truly benefit from divorce? Surely not the children of the divorced. Divorce will reinforce lack of preparation before marriage and will continue to agravate the situation.

C Darmanin

Jul 6th 2010, 13:52

I totally agree with G Grech. Why shouldn't we emphasise on the prevention rather than just thinking solely about the cure?

C Galea

Jul 6th 2010, 12:58

Nowhere in the entire world is divorce not provided for. Except for Malta (for now) and the Philippines.
I suggest you move to the Phillippines, R Buhagiar.

Finally some progress!

wally vella-zarb

Jul 6th 2010, 13:04

"Not even if you make a law, you have to go to the public first in a referendum."

Why??? Please explain.

David Buttigieg

Jul 6th 2010, 13:07

Just for your information, Joseph Muscat promised the same thing if elected, even though he doesn't have the guts to make it party policy.

Referendum? As if! Why should you have a say in what other people do as long as it does not effect others!

Besides, for the thousands of Catholics here it will make no difference will it if they are truly Catholic!

Jack Sparrow

Jul 6th 2010, 13:08

"As a nationalist...we will throw the PN to the Opposition benches"

Joseph Muscat promised to present a private member's bill for the introduction of divorce once he's in government.

Evarist Saliba

Jul 6th 2010, 13:09

You are rather confused. The Nationalist Party and Mr Jeffrey Pullicino Orlando are not the same.

G Camilleri

Jul 6th 2010, 13:11

About this subject. The Labour Party said would propose for the introduction of divorce should it be elected and gives a free vote to MPs

Marvin Spagnol

Jul 6th 2010, 13:11

Dear R Buhagiar, Why i have to live in an unhappy marriage because YOU DONT WANT DIVORCE???. I am Christian like most probably you are however i cannot enforce my way of life to others.

And please dont be pathetic about throwing people for a side to another. Who do you think you are ? Just stick to the subject and avoid nonsense irrelevant rubish opinion. Thanks

Marvin Spagnol

Jul 6th 2010, 13:11

Dear R Buhagiar, Why i have to live in an unhappy marriage because YOU DONT WANT DIVORCE???. I am Christian like most probably you are however i cannot enforce my way of life to others.

And please dont be pathetic about throwing people for a side to another. Who do you think you are ? Just stick to the subject and avoid nonsense irrelevant rubish opinion. Thanks

Ramon Casha

Jul 6th 2010, 13:24

@R Buhagiar: Oh that's clever. Let's see... PL have promised a vote on divorce. PN have JPO in favour of divorce. AD has been in favour of divorce since day 1. If that's your platform, it seems like you're running out of parties.

Joe Grima

Jul 6th 2010, 13:25

R Buhagiar: I suggest you open a window and look into the 21st century. A government is there to govern but also to provide civil liberties wherever these are absent. That is what democracy demands. For broken-down marraiges the Goverenment does not provide remedies and the only remedy is divorce. I don't even care if JPO's move is a political one to pull the carpet from under the Opposition's feet. Joseph Muscat, has committed himself to a divorce law as soon as elected. Divorce is an absolute human right which in Malta is missing.

M. Grech

Jul 6th 2010, 13:43

Please!! Please!!!! I suspect your earnest desire to put the PN in opposition has to do with a lot more than the issue of divorce, afterall if you do not agree with divorce you can always choose not to take that route. But you have no right to deny it to those whose marriage has irretrievably broken down. No one is condemned to live a life of misery just because a section of the population of this tiny island of ours feels more holy than the rest of the world.

R Buhagiar

Jul 6th 2010, 14:30

Minorities must never be allowed to decide for the majority and put civil life to the stake.. By divorce children will suffer, women will suffer since they will be used and abused and sent to the poverty channel. Divorce is wrong. Divcorce is for those egoistic and perverted males who dont accept that age will slow their passions down until the time they face death. That's their pleasure not their children or their women. They are making prostitutes out of their women.

Oscar Cassar

Jul 6th 2010, 15:08

In-Nazzjonalizmu illum mhux dak tal-bierah... insejtu li fl-Ewropa diga kien hemm partiti Nazzjonalisti li kienu immexxija minn Gays (fost l-ohrajn). Zminijiet differenti jirrikjedu politika differenti. Prosit JPO

RGatt

Jul 7th 2010, 09:38

You do not know what you're writing about. The most important for you is not the children, it's what your church brainwashes you with. Explain to me why a priest, monk or a nun can divorce from the church and I, who has been separated for over sixteen years and cohabiting for almost fifteen, can't get divorce in order to get married again by the state. Do you think I am proud of the fact that my first marriage did not last a lifetime. Do you think we did not try. People like you comment on such things when you do not even know what others are going through. You and others like you comment just for the sake of repeating what your local brainwashers say. Do you ever stop to think for yourself what others are going through. Do you think that if there's no divorce, separations will stop. We live in a new age and eventually even the church will have to keep in touch. So I hope you and others like you stay content and happy in you marraige balloon, but you have no right to dictate what others should do. Not you and not your church.

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