Friday, 9th May 2008
Support group for couples facing infertility problems
Infertility affects various aspects of a couple's relationship and, as the two fight against their very own bodies to have a child, they usually find little medical, financial and emotional support.
Wanting And Waiting (WAW) is a support group within the Cana Movement that offers help to those couples who find it difficult to have a child. The group members have come together and produced a leaflet with the aim of raising awareness that support exists for couples going through difficult moments due to infertility.
The leaflet, that will be distributed soon, outlines the various stages of a couple's battle against infertility. When a couple find out that they are infertile the woman is usually the first to want to investigate the problem. It is important that, at this stage, the couple support one another, the leaflet recommends.
The couple usually undergo tests and then start undergoing treatment that puts them under immense stress. Apart from side effects, the financial expenses and time dedicated to getting pregnant often increase the burden on the couple.
The WAW leaflet points out that the woman, who often has a strong maternal instinct, often feels an emptiness within her when she fails to get pregnant and, no matter how much the couple love one another, it is hard to heal the wound.
Wherever she goes, the woman is reminded about the problem. The presence of children or pregnant women rub salt into the wound during this delicate time and even the couple's moments of intimacy become a reminder of their infertility.
The man usually does not show his emotions as much as his wife and takes on the supporting role. However, men may experience guilt feelings as they blame themselves for being unable to make their wife happy.
WAW stresses that the couple must keep in mind that their infertility is not their fault and, if one feels responsible, they ought to remember that when they exchanged vows they become one in marriage.
As the couple struggle to face their infertility they get little support. It is not easy to speak about this delicate issue. Even talking to friends and family can feel uncomfortable. WAW highlights the fact that the way in which the people around the couple behave makes a big difference because being listened to and supported makes a world of a difference to a couple going through this difficult experience.
The WAW support group aims to reduce the stress and emotional pain faced by such couples by offering solidarity, friendship, hope and courage. During meetings, couples share their problems and experiences and learn that they are not alone.
Anyone interested in attending the support group can call the Cana Movement on 2123 8068/2123 8942 or send an e-mail to info@canamovement.org.
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