To divorce or not to divorce

According to the Bible "those whom God hath joined together let no man put asunder". Considering a society where the word "technology" was not even understood, such a statement could have been comprehended easily in biblical times. As the ages advanced and times changed, when it came to basic survival humankind advanced a lot.

Is extra commodity, modern education, communication and the relatively easy life, compared to biblical times, good for humanity? I don't think so. Like a child who grows unchallenged is spoilt so also our society got spoilt. When an individual is spoilt s/he finds it hard to conclude what s/he wants from life and to maintain a stand on what s/he beliefs in. This is how divorce came about.

Divorce is a social and moral sin as it destroys the family unit that is the corner stone of society. Being an anti-divorce in modern times is easier said than done considering the perils and hardships we have to suffer and endure in a fruitful relationship.

We all agree that communication may dictate morals and lead to indoctrination. This is valid as well for the music we are exposed to and modern-day trends. The problem with communication or the media is that they are "cool" with respect to the Church and, like babies, that by nature learn through enjoyment, we are more inclined to watch TV and listen to music than follow the parish priest or that boring teacher at school. We prefer to dress better than our friends, although the meaning we give to the term "better" has changed quite a lot. It is a bitter mistake to overlook what signals the media transmit and what the social pressures are. Look at the statistics on marriage and see where we stand.

Age is another contributing factor, as it involves experiences that are not always good. The bad experiences of past relationships will cause one to generalise and assume that all men or women are the same. This is false but it requires maturity to admit. We must all be aware that a relationship is a risk and nothing will detract from its nature but fear itself. When fear draws in it impairs growth, blocks relationships under all forms and hinders love, which is the most important thing of all.

Whether divorce is a moral issue or not, society must open its eyes to the true moral beliefs that unite and build a family and discern them vis-à-vis those that bring about personal and social destabilisation, ultimately killing the family unit. If we do not want to commit evil we must realise how destructive it can really be and foresee its outcome before proceeding to our next step.

When we reason this way and conclude what we want from life, hopefully, permanent marriages will be possible again, without divorce. Otherwise, continuing on the present path will only make divorce an asset. Because in a society that is loaded with fears that impede encounters and commitments, divorce is the only solution for such problems.

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